Last week at the cottage, I wrote a memorial for my grandmother who passed away on July 10th. I thought I would share it here, along with a video of Grandma, my mom and S singing together. So glad I managed to capture such a recent, joyful moment!
The Lucky One
When it comes to sharing memories of Grandma Catherine, so many ideas
come to mind. I could mention all the fun times growing up as a child,
visiting Grandma on St. Leger and raiding her snack cupboard (though as
Vanessa recently pointed out, we had to stay away from Uncle John's
stash of Zehrs chips!) There were all the chaotically memorable
Christmases, with the whole Geffros clan crammed around the kitchen
table, fighting over the remaining stuffing. And how could I forget the
annual multi-day sleepovers each Summer, spending days with Grandma at
the Queen St. park and Market Square, scratching lottery tickets at the
deli with the "A crowd" (Edna, Emma, Frieda, Verna, Hannah and I'm sure
there were others!)
But now that Grandma has passed on from this life and on to the next,
what remains with me most vividly are the more recent years.
Conversations with Grandma in her apartment, me on the couch and Grandma
on her favourite chair, munching on Pringles with the news or sports on
mute in the background. Being warmed by the sparkle in Grandma's eye
and her joyful laugh as she watched my daughter toddle around the living
room, getting into mischief. Grocery shopping for Grandma and never
failing to see the ol' standbys on the list - bananas (for the
potassium, of course), French bread, 4-5 slices of deli meat, pineapple
cream cheese and a Farmer's Market pie. And then telling her that the
total was way more (or less) than it actually was and seeing how quick
she was to brush her hand at me, saying "Ohhhhhhh hush". (And then
she'd always be sure to give a "tip" on top of the actual total!) But
most of all, simply appreciating all of her MANY admirable qualities -
wisdom, patience, caring, generosity, humour, strength of mind and body,
sociability, determination, gratitude, forgiveness - and of course an
unwavering love for her family and friends.
Following Grandma's passing, many people thanked me for the time I
spent with Grandma over the recent years, mentioning that she was lucky
to have me close by. My immediate answer was that it was my pleasure to
spend this time with her. Because it certainly was. But it was more than
that. *I* was the one who was lucky to have such a wonderful person in
my life for 33 years, and Grandma I thank YOU for all the time we got to
spend together. You will be forever loved and forever missed.
If You're Happy And You Know It!